Saturday, January 27, 2018

I Am Depressed, What Should I Do?

Causing people to believe that they are at the mercy of and victims of mysterious chemical imbalances in the brain pretty much puts them at the mercy of the person prescribing drugs to alleviate that balance. Believe it or not we cause emotions to occur, and the intent to create those emotions creates the chemicals inside of our brains followed by the emotions we feel. Thus we are always creating chemical imbalances as we swing from one emotion to another such as happiness to sadness to anger to joy to feeling good to fear to feeling self-confident etc. etc. etc.
The belief that you are in control of your emotional state actually puts you in charge of your state. Thus we can create at will whatever emotional state is desired in the moment. A person who is severely depressed can through the use of their will change to being ecstatically happy. However what must be considered is that the person who feels a strong negative emotion such as sadness or depression has coded that automatic response into their personal makeup. Thus some event that occurs outside but usually inside their own mind will trigger a sad response just as easily as it could trigger a happy response. Each individual learns to create sets of emotions that they use over and over and over again because they prove useful to that individual. Fortunately those automatic responses can be changed to new automatic responses. And we do this all the time. This is the learning process
People do get stuck in creating emotional responses automatically based on what they learned at an earlier point in their lives. They've chosen to maintain that response because maintaining habits is easier than changing them. At a certain point many people decide that old, worn-out responses which they may have learned a age of 3 or 5yrs old have been unconsciously utilized up to a later age (for instance 40 yrs. old). They then realize that those responses are no longer suitable, and they want to change them.
There are many avenues for creating change in yourself. Methods that I use very effectively are HypPotherapy and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). There are many others available as well. Psychologists use a number of tools which include CBT, DBT, psychodynamics, psychodrama. These are all very effective depending on the mindset of the individual.
If you want to do this on your own, you can always try self hypnosis.

Is depression that bad that people kill themselves? I really want to understand the daily thought process of a depressed person without coming off as offensive. Is depression constantly there or does it come and go?

1-23-2018    From Quora

When you're not depressed or don't have the experience, it's easy to misunderstand someone who is. Yet inside that person a lot is going on. Frequently people commit suicide when they strongly desire a significant change to occur, and feel powerless to make that change happen.
There is quite a bit to the subject of depression. Before we go any further let me first say that depression is a very, very important emotion; if we didn't have it our society would run amok. There are many different stages and types. One of the important elements in its self-creation is that a person feels a lack of control within their environment. That could be their external as well as their internal environment.
Depression a lot of times stems from anger, even though the depressed person doesn't understand what the original source was. Anger is the most powerful of all negative emotions. Considering the "fight or flight syndrome" Anger is the fight, whereas Fear is the flight. Depression is the second most powerful, and we use it to balance out angry feelings. There are many who experience depression who don't even realize that they actually suffer from anger, too.   {{That’s because there is an interplay between these two emotions, whereas once a person gets angry they want to take action and believe that they can't. Following that, frustration and depression usually kick in to mediate before their anger gets too strong.
We've all heard stories of the angry person who misdirects their anger by taking their frustrations out on other people, animals or things, etc. Witnesses to such behavior may then give anger a bad name. Add to that, a lot of religions and subcultures within various societies teach that anger is wrong and should not be expressed. Thus a lot of people don't realize the true value of anger. This emotion is designed to spark action, to create forceful and powerful change when necessary. Many people use it very, very effectively.
People who suppress anger get depressed. When the automatic reaction to anger is to suppress it, a state of depression can be created, while being unaware of being quite angry inside. Such people are only aware of feeling depressed without the anger that lead up to it.
Normally, all of our emotions come and go. It's a rare person who's in a happy blissful state all the time. Likewise it's rare to find a person who is angry or depressed all of the time.
There are many ways to successfully deal with depression/anger. You can start activities that you really enjoy to take your mind off of these 2 powerful emotions. If that is not effective enough, other methods are to seek the services of a therapist. Commonly in our society psychologists and psychiatrists can be very helpful. Other approaches that can be very effective are hypnotherapy, NLP (Neuro linguistic programming) and many other alternative approaches. Others find support groups to be most helpful.
No treatment method is better than any other method. Evaluate your alternatives then choose whichever treatment method that you believe will work best. After starting, you may realize your treatment needs have changed at a new stage of progress. At this point, changing your treatment or complementing it with another can give you more complete, faster success - optimal results.
Whether you're feeling depressed, angry or fearful or have some other uncomfortable behavior, e.g., OCD, bi-polar, bad habits, chronic procrastination, etc., etc., etc., I think it's a good idea to investigate and discover what works best for you. Whether you manage it on our own or decide to seek out the help of a professional therapist, it is also a good idea to consider conventional as well as your alternative options.      {{In my work (hypnotherapy and NLP) my clients find relief once feeling self-empowered over their situations. Plus, self-valuation improves. In addition many people whom I've worked with come to me from having seen psychologists and psychiatrists either to complement or replace the treatment already being received, with excellent results.
Your friends who experience depression respond differently to different types of stimuli at different times. If you try to cheer someone up they may get more depressed or angry. Some just want sympathy. While others just want to be left alone. If you're going to offer any type of help you should consider what the person responds to best in that moment. Yet be fully prepared to just leave the personal alone, realizing they will probably snap out of it at some point.
What is the ultimate cure for depression? Go easy on yourself. It's realizing your natural sense of self-empowerment; learning to accept things for the way they are; letting go of negative misinterpretations about past experiences through gaining useful new learnings; gaining unconditional self-acceptance; having unconditional self-appreciation and accepting your unconditional self-love. No matter which way you choose to get help for depression, these learnings will go a long way towards ultimately releasing you from the anger/depression cycle.

Friday, March 3, 2017

Thanks William Johnson for this post. People are always amazed when they find out they have entered into states of suggestibility when in heightened emotional states. Normal conscious evaluations then fall by the wayside, providing more direct routes to their unconscious mind.

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